Keep Your Eye on the Cross 

I wanted to go into a different direction on my blog entry this time. I wanted to talk about my husband and being a preachers wife. Before Chris became a minister, I had always had the misconception that a preacher didn’t have a very hard job. They work a couple hours on Sunday and an hour on Wednesdays nights. That’s usually the only time we see them anyways, right? WRONG!!! Honestly I think some people have that misconception as well. People think, “How hard can it be?” Well, There is so much more to it than that. So much more. 
I remember when Chris was hired as the pulpit minister at his first congregation. The excitement was unmeasurable, because I knew the talent that God had blessed him with, was going to be finally utilized. His love for the Lord, preaching, teaching His Word, saving lost souls, and lastly, that voice, what an honor it was to hear him. I was so proud of him and happy because he was getting to do what he longed to do. Chris has such a commanding, well-spoken voice. His love and zeal for the Lord shines through in his presentation. As a Christian, I Iove his delivery and learning though his preaching and teaching methods. 
As a wife, I am the cheerleader, the encourager, the critiquer, his shoulder to lean on. I am his helpmeet in this life. I see the hours that he spends preparing sermons & bible study notes. He takes each lesson and sermon seriously and makes sure it is scripturally sound. When he councils people, he makes sure it is from Gods Word. I see how passionate he is for the cause of Christ. In my Christian journey, I have seen some congregations that could use a dose of this kind of passion and zeal for the Lord today.
I remember in the beginning there were things I didn’t know how to handle as the wife of a preacher. I remember Chris’s first sermon, his first complement, his first critique, and I remember when I heard someone say something bad about him. It hurt my heart so much. I actually cried. As a wife, you want to react to each situation as a supportive spouse would, but as a Christian, you have to learn humility, calmness and in certain situations forgiveness. It has been an eye-opening experience. 
 I have seen the pressure and stress from certain aspects in this journey that would make anyone want to just hang it up, but Chris keeps on going. True, Sometimes he gets real discouraged. Discouragement is just one of those horrible human traits that we all have to deal with sometimes. Preachers are not exempt from that. I have seen from traditions in the church, to people’s opinions and personalities, it can really make things difficult and overwhelming sometimes. I have learned that congregations without elders puts so much more pressure on the preacher to make the decisions. It can be overwhelming and mentally exhausting. 
One side of Chris that most people don’t see, is that he is very hard on himself. There is not anyone out there that will critique him worse than himself. As the wife looking in, I am so proud of the man that he has become since we have been married. I know that the road has not been smooth sailing, but he has overcome so man things continues to every single day. He is a man that loves God, loves his wife, loves his parents, loves his brothers and sisters in Christ and loves preaching. 
As I think about this journey we have made together, I wouldn’t change it. It has strengthened us spiritually and especially as a couple. This journey can be stressful, but it’s also been humbling and amazing. It will all be worth it in the end. 

Remember to anyone that feels they aren’t good enough or feel like giving up…Don’t!! 

You are amazing and God loves you. 
John 16:33

“These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.” 

I dedicate this to my husband Chris. Keep your eye on the cross.  

3 thoughts on “Keep Your Eye on the Cross 

  1. I have been feeling very lost since moving across country and leaving my home church, not able worship and pray like I used to. But to my dearest cousin, your words, your love and the season this blog came into my life could not have been more perfect. Please keep the posts coming.
    Forever grateful,


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